Day Sixty Two

Well, it was confirmed that she WAS at last nights going away party.  He admitted that, while everyone had a good time and he missed out on that, he was REALLY glad he didn’t go.  He said he doesn’t want to see her.  I am slowly starting to believe that, however she did change her facebook profile to private in the last day or so, which is VERY suspicious to me since I had just told my husband that I was able to view it two days ago.  Are they still talking?  This cant be a coincidence.  I don’t believe in coincidences anymore.

He left work early to celebrate a huge milestone in our four year olds life.  We went to her favorite restaurant/playplace and had a great time as a family.   Unfortunately the kids took so much of his attention that we spent very little time together and by the time they went to bed we were both exhausted.  I brought up her having changed her profile to private and he was irritated with me, but tried really hard to hide it.  We are leaving to Houston to spend a few days tomorrow and I don’t want to ruin that so I dropped it. 

I hope he is not still talking to her. 

Day Sixty One

Today was a busy day for all of us… the kids and I had lots of errands to run and tons of cleaning and things to do around the house and he had a busy work day.  He was great about keeping in touch for most of the day, knowing that she was there and he needed to communicate with me the best he could.  It was somewhat of a relief, but still unnerving since she was in his building.  My long list of things to do helped me to focus on my life rather than his mistake.  It was actually a pretty nice day.

I got a call in the afternoon from my Dr that said that all of my STD test results came back negative, but I needed to return in 3 months for a second HIV test.  That was a relief!

At night, he called me several times from his office to make sure that I knew he was at work and not at the going away party.  He told me that they (his employees and coworkers) had been texting and calling him all night to come to the party and he finally told them that he was having some problems at home and needed to not be social right now, he even went as far as to tell them that the issues were due to “deceit on my part” and they finally let it go.  He came home and told me, that after hearing about all the people from his company that were at the party he was sure she was probably there and he was glad he was home with me.  I let it go at that point.  He was here with me, I didn’t care where that dirty slut was. 

Day Fifty Nine

I had a fun activity planned for the kids today that took place near his office, so he asked us to come by for lunch.  I almost obliged, but logistically it wasn’t going to work with our activity so I declined.  He got points for asking though. J

Later in the afternoon, after I exhausted the kids and drove home in terrible traffic with a screaming headache, I came home and rested for a few moments before preparing for dinner, etc. We had a lot of nice conversation during dinner.  After dinner, he asked if he could attend his coworkers going away party this weekend, had thought about it enough to offer up the evite list to show that the yogurt slut wasn’t invited and even promised to leave if she showed up.  Wow.  Thanks.  Apparently he still doesn’t understand that his promises don’t mean anything to me.  In return, I offered up her facebook page which clearly showed a friendship between her and the coworker… a conversation about getting drinks soon had taken place in the last week.  He seemed so convinced that she wasn’t going to be there that my crazy took over and, in my head, I was sure that they were planning a secret rendezvous.  He noticed that look in my eyes and asked if I wanted to go with him to the party.  Yeah, that’s just how I wanted to spend my Friday night… looking over my shoulder for a skanky girl who fucked my husband to walk through the door.  How can he even ask me that?  Why wont he drop it?  I finally told him that I am not his mother and he can make whatever choices he would like, but I was done having this conversation. 

What really tears me up is that we had been having a really nice night before that.  All that for a stupid party for a coworker that I didn’t even like and that I was pretty sure had had an affair with one of the other managers!  He knew I disliked her, he knew I was uncomfortable with their relationship years ago and he knew I was uncomfortable with ANY work outing, yet he still pushed it. 

He did redeem himself slightly by apologizing for bringing it up and saying that he didn’t mean to upset me.  Too late.  I’m pissed.